Okay, first off, here's your weekly introduction to our latest inspiring person in the Mesmer Project. After the revelations about our mayor, we could use some inspiration.
I've been seriously upset about this, and totally disoriented. The simple truth is often neither, but we can all agree that Sam fucked up big time. Or perhaps fucked down. Either way, his actions give new meaning to the term inaugural ball. Yes, he should have known that Breedlove's name is a noun, not a verb. But the calls for his resignation are way out of proportion.
Let me make this clear: THE MAN DID NOTHING ILLEGAL. Neither the sex nor the lie was against the law. Wrong? Yes. But as city council member Amanda Fritz said yesterday, “I’ve been a psychiatric nurse for twenty years and there’s not a person in this room who hasn’t made mistakes and lied to cover them up.” So everyone should put down their stones.
Personally, I think anyone over the age of 25 should put a velvet rope across the doorway of their bedrooms and follow what I think of the Studio 54 Rule: no one under 21 gets in. But we’re human. Elvis fell in love with Priscilla Presley when he was 24 and she was 14. When they consummated that relationship is an open question. Of course, Adams is the mayor of Portland and not the King of rock ‘n roll, but what I'm saying is that it's too easy to portray this relationship as predatory without looking at the specifics.
Three weeks after he turned 18, a hot gay boy got some summer lovin’ with a sexy, single older man. Of course, he could have joined the army instead and shot another man and that'd be okay. But, like so many of us at that age, he wanted to get laid. Often. And 42 goes into 18 just as easily as 18 goes into 42.
Personally, I'd love to hear from Beau Breedlove at this point, who moved on from Sam to another older man. If Beau wasn't bothered by the relationship, then the rest of us should shut our Puritan pie holes and get back to more important matters like gossiping about our neighbors.
For those who say they can't get over the lies, that Sam can never be trusted again, I say get real. He's the same man we elected, just one who fucked up. Or down. Or maybe sideways.
Sam himself said, "I don't think an apology is enough...I'm very ashamed. And humbled. And humiliated. And that's appropriate...I'm going to have to work to regain people's trust. I have a lot of work to do."
I say we give him the chance to do just that.
PS Regarding that other politician, you know the one who made history yesterday, here's what I had to say on the NPR website about his proposed arts policy. I'd be curious to know your thoughts on that matter, too, so please leave a comment there.